Everyone behaves passively, assertively, or aggressively at various times and in various situations. This inventory will help you determine in which particular situations you are likely to be passive, aggressive, or assertive.
The following questions will be helpful in assessing your preferred style in certain situations. Be honest in your responses since anything less is self-defeating and pointless, and will distort your results. Circle the letter of the statement that describes you best.
When someone watches me while I work and I feel uncomfortable and distracted, I:
When a person in authority deals unfairly with me, I:
Concerning the dividing of workload, I:
When I need small favors or help from family or friends or co-workers, I:
When a favorite co-worker expresses a viewpoint different from mine on a controversial issue, I:
When someone makes an unreasonable request of me at work, I:
To get others to do something, I:
When others don’t seem to “carry their weight” at work, I:
If I am asked to work overtime, I:
When a client is being rude or abrupt, I:
How did you answer — A, B, or C?
A. Passive tendencies
You believe that you should never make anyone uncomfortable or displeased with you. Although passive people are nice people, their way of relating can lead to emotional exhaustion with self and resentment towards others. In order to gain control and power over your life, assertiveness techniques are a must.
B. Assertiveness qualities
Assertive individuals have a healthy sense of self-respect. They respect others as well but will draw clear boundaries on inappropriate behavior. They communicate their needs well and stay current with feelings.
C. Aggressive behavior
Although aggressive individuals are honest, they lack tact and diplomacy. Their goals are usually achieved at the expense of others and they usually are baffled that others say they are rude. These people also need to learn assertiveness techniques to better their social skills.